I'm taking inspiration from fashion to name this article, although what I want to talk about is independent from it. I was reading an article this morning that encouraged me to say something on the subject: one in an old Marie Claire, that went on about the phenomenon of succesful women abandoning their careers for the burka and converting to Islam. While I think that's a little extreme and I have no interest in being quite so vocal, I can see the attraction in desexualising oneself; I'm going through this phase right now.
Women = sex toys, and I often enjoy that. It's one of the perks of having a body. But sometimes it frustrates me, and I just wish I could have a conversation without someone trying to run their fingers through my hair. This is particularly obvious in business: In a man's world, try to get anyone to take you seriously as a petite female. I embrace my feminity wholeheartily, I'm a total "princess", an absurdity, an complete nutcase of lipstick and long hair. But you know what? There are times, when I want to SAY something.
And saying something is so much easier in trousers, shirts and plain makeup. That's where androginy comes into play. I cannot explain with sufficient emphasis the liberation that you get when people don't stare at you and whistle. When you can just walk from a to b without some repulsive welk whispering obscene comments in his second language. I wish I could press a button and "boom" turn into a guy, and finish a project without the tension of being with someone who either fancies you or undermines you. Without the bullshit that comes with "I'm a girl and you're a guy". Because a girl, until proven wrong, is useless, by the way.
So the other day I was wearing my black jacket, tuxedo trousers, black brogues- we all know this "boy-fication" isn't really about looking like a boy at all. How many boys dress like that? The way I interpret it, or the way it works for me rather, is by using it as a mask or a cover to my female attributes. Sure there are levels and you can expose more or less, but when I feel like I just want to escape from this petite blonde bubble that I'm confined in, my favourite thing to do is to cover "key" areas: Hair (up), clavicle, boobs, waist, bum. And you're free!
It doesn't look prudish because you're not dressing prim and proper, you don't even have to be neat; you're just putting a lot of fabric on. So I really enjoy it, and while I'm sure a lot of women will feel stripped of their feminity while wearing it, my feminity shouts pretty loud, and can perfectly stand to be shut down for a couple of hours.
WARNING: This idea for me is about experimentation, toying with different sensations and getting different feedback. I am by no means implying that a girl being a girl 100% isn't just as powerful. But it's definitely different.
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Can I read this article, please? I’m a Muslim myself and a woman, and when I saw that one sentence gist of the article, I couldn’t really fathom why these successful women abandon their careers for the burka and converting to Islam.
Just because you’re now a Muslim woman doesn’t mean you couldn’t be successful. So it really bothers me when I read that and so I need to read the article in full so that I can understand what it is (actually) about.
Oh btw, I enjoyed your article very much! And this is my first time commenting. Guess I’m a no longer silent reader now. Haha.
You’re an interesting and intelligent woman Diana, I can totally appreciate where you are coming from
Hi Hanim,
Thank you and welcome to the party
Gosh, i cant tell you where to read the article, i dont know, i found the magazine lying around in my parents house last week and i dont have it with me. It was a british marie claire with Drew Barrymore on the cover, i think it was from last years autumn issue either september/october/november…
Well to be fair, it was women who had already been very succesfull and famous and were probably sick of everything. A form of extremism i guess
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Aww, that’s too bad. I guess I’ll have to find it manually! Hahaha.
I sure understand where you are coming from, but the paradox is that, at times, you will get more attention like that, from a certain type of men, trust me! The ones that are intimidated by female sexuality and feel more at easy approaching a girl that’s not aggressively sexual
Good thing is that those aren’t too many… or are they? Being a tall brunette isn’t easier than being a petite blonde, at times, trust me, but we have the power to use that to our advantage 
Girls DO have the power :-p Sorry guys! Sex is power! Depends on the person, but dressing up androginously, at times, instead of desexualising, has the opposite effect. You can tell that by even looking at some of the pics you uploaded. But it takes beauty and powerful sensuality/sexuality for that (which those women in the pics obviously have)…So, sorry for you, but you are too hot to hide it! hehe In my case, if I wanna be taken seriously, a business suit and stronger makeup does the job (by intimidating guys, I think), way more than dressing up androginously…(man, whatta ramble here… but I had to add my 2 cents..)
It’s scary how alike we think Di, haha. Loved your post and understand COMPLETELY what you are feeling and going through. As human beings we are all sexual beings but the problem comes when we are perceived ONLY as “sexual objects”.
haha i love you. Yea, absolutely. You got it
Muzette- i’m sure you get a lot of shit too because you’re really pretty.
It was just one argument, there are so many variables, i couldn’t go through all of them we’re all super different. Thanks for the input
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I know, and I was only adding my oppinion, not saying you weren’t right, cuz you are 100% right and I loved your post that’s why I felt like talkin, too
I have your blog set as Home Page 
And I am happy to see that you have been posting more often lately! Puts me in a better mood when turning on my computer for work 
Hugs!
no way!! aw thank you xxx